One of things that comes up most often in my work with clients is them facing a challenge or difficulty in a relationship. Whether it’s a point of difference with a parent or ongoing miscommunication with a partner, most of us have a hard time being honest and forthcoming about our emotions, needs and desires. […]
Have you ever heard of the amygdala hijack? Chances are if you’ve ever taken a psychology 101 course you probably have. But do you know what it has to do with relationships? Let me explain! First, some basic brain anatomy! The amygdala is a structure in your brain, located in the deep temporal lobe. This […]
Remember when we all thought this was going to last a few weeks and then we’d all get back to normal? I know I was one of those people who couldn’t imagine still living in (partial, at least) lockdown mode in the middle of July. LOL. Here we are! Not much has changed since this […]
In the past few years I’ve seen a lot more conversation online about personal boundaries. Today, I’m going to share with you what I think of as the 6 common types so that you can think about how to set boundaries to better your mental health and relationships. As much as people have come to […]
As the world continues to grapple with the ongoing effects of systemic racism and unnecessary Black death, many more people have committed themselves to becoming more actively anti-racist and that often involves a lot of listening. As a therapist I know all too well that most of us don’t get taught fundamental listening skills. Let’s […]
During the time of coronavirus many people made the leap early on to shelter in place with parents or family in order to stave off loneliness and get the comforts of home. Unfortunately, this also means all the not-so-comfortable dynamics rear their ugly heads making that stay less than ideal. Old Roles Haven’t Changed Have […]
We’re living in some pretty crazy times. It’s like we were all dropped on some foreign planet in the middle of the night and now have to figure out to live an entirely new life – all at once. The last time we learned how to exist as people we did it over a span […]
At this point, many cities and states around the country are dealing with the impact of COVID-19 (coronavirus). Many forms of “shelter in place” and related statutes are now our new normal (for the time being) and this means that many more people are spending more time, and with each other, than normal. Here are […]
A question for all of my fellow thirtysomethings – wasn’t being in your twenties fun?! I look back on that decade with love, laughter, and hope that some photos are never shared. I remember feeling like an adult who was definitely ALL GROWN UP but didn’t nearly have enough responsibility to feel weighed down. No […]
Let my begin by stating that this post isn’t about an actual apocalypse. Frankly, I didn’t even come up with the analogy but it’s an apt one that I think drives the message home. Many of us wonder if we’ll actually know when it’s time to move on from a relationship. As it turns out, […]
