One of the things that I’ve been working with clients on (and dealing with myself too) is keeping perspective during COVID-19. From the illness itself and the loss of lives to the economic changes and ongoing misinformation campaigns, we’re living in tough times.
Being able to shift our perspective towards a more positive bend is helpful. This shift serves a functional purpose to keep us moving forward. This is helpful, of course, but we should also not be shaming all the “not so good feelings” we’re experiencing right now. Sadness, panic, fear, hopelessness and grief are all appropriate responses to what’s happening.
But, sometimes we need a mental break from those feelings. We need some other perspectives to keep us going. Here are 8 affirmations I’ve been spending time with over the past few weeks. I hope you find them helpful.
This is not normal and it’s OK that I’m not acting normal.
Try not to internalize the gaslighting that’s happening on the news. This is an unprecedented global issue and trying to be ‘normal’ is an unreasonable expectation right now. Plus, normal has always been overrated.
I am doing the best I can.
We can only do what we can right now. Maybe that means being productive, maybe it doesn’t. All that actually matters is that you’re trying your best.
Creating helps me feel in control.
When so much of our lives feels out of control and uncertain, taking control and creating anything: an experience, playlist or puzzle, can be grounding.
I don’t have to feel guilty for having the resources I do have.
It’s OK to have enough resources to be OK during this time. If you have more than you need, consider how you might help support others if you want – whether that’s emotionally or financially. Either way, having right now doesn’t mean that you can’t feel good about how fortunate you are.
It’s OK for me to experience joy and other positive emotions during this time.
There is no one right way to feel during a pandemic. Relish the moments of joy and ease that you do have. You’re allowed to feel good and hopeful.
There is no right way to survive the pandemic.
We’re all doing the best we can to survive. This may not look like your normal way of being and that’s OK. Extend yourself the grace of flexibility and adaptability.
Taking care of myself helps me better take care of others.
Running yourself into the ground and taking nonessential risks is not helpful to your wellbeing. Taking care of yourself allows you to be more present for others.
Being productive is not a sign of personal worth.
It’s OK if you don’t have the capacity to work extra hard, start a new business or learn a new language. Productivity was never an indicator of worth and still shouldn’t be.
Jor-El is Co-founder of Viva Wellness and a foodie and film buff. He most often writes about mental health, relationships, food and mindfulness. When he’s not busy working, he typically can be found lounging or walking around NYC with his pup Nomi.