As a therapist (well, and a human) I consider myself to be “sex positive”. But what does that really mean? Let’s start with what it’s not. Sex positive doesn’t mean that one agrees with any sex at any time, involving anyone or anything. Generally sex positive means that one has an awareness and appreciation for […]
I feel like the holiday season (congrats on surviving it, everyone!) is prime time for social media worthy photos of engagements, happy couples and families, and overall love and good vibes. As much as I love seeing people happy and sharing in someone else’s life milestones, I always wonder why we don’t show the other […]
Many of the conversations we have around this time of year center on the idea of returning home for the holidays and dealing with the related stressors. That, of course, is a concern for many. However, we don’t often talk about how stressful the holidays can be for those in committed relationships. No two couples […]
Most of the time when we talk about the health of relationships, we focus on family or romantic bonds. But as TLC sang, “WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS?!” Friendly relationships are subject to the same standards of health that these other relationships are. But often, because we are surrounded by a focus on romantic love, we […]
When is the right time to help? Very similarly to how there’s no right way to help, there’s no right time to help either. If only there was an app that could tell you the most optimal time to be there for your friend, like there’s an app that tells us the best time to […]
Recently, Myleik Teele and I spoke about the perils of the silent treatment, which seemed to resonate with a lot of you. Today, I’m sharing some more thoughts as a follow-up to our conversation about one of the most destructive relationship habits. What is the silent treatment? The silent treatment is generally self-explanatory. It’s about […]
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. While abuse has been something that we’ve talked more about in the mainstream in recent years, there is still a lot of stigma and misinformation about domestic violence (also known as intimate partner violence). In an effort to reveal some untruths today we are sharing some myths and realities […]
Along with being a mental health counselor and wellness advocate I’m also a big film buff. One day while I was watching an old Alfred Hitchcock film “Rich and Strange” I was struck by what one of the characters said about love and relationships: I think this quote encapsulates so much about our struggles in […]
Relationships are hard work. When we enter a new partnership we bring with us a lot of baggage and expectations about how the relationship should go and what should happen. This often leads to some bumps in the road. In an effort to chip away at some of these pitfalls, today we’re sharing with you […]
The Five Love Languages aren’t new (the book by Gary Chapman was first published in 1995), but they have recently gained popularity as a common way to understand yourself and those around you. So many people get their version of an “Ah ha!” moment when they read about where they fit on the spectrum. Most […]
